1. What is my real reason for revealing this information to the children?
2. Are my children being harmed by the behavior I am about to criticize? Or are they being harmed by not having the information I am about to reveal?
3. How will it help the children to hear what I am about to tell them?
4. Do the possible benefits of revealing this to the children out-weigh the possible risks?
5. If I were still happily married to my spouse, and I wanted to protect our children’s relationship with him or her, How would I handle the situation?